TFYT

Tool: Integrity, Character, Responsibility, Accountability – advanced TFYT for sure!

Integrity – honest and having strong moral principles: moral uprightness. the state of being whole and undivided (synonyms: honesty probity, rectitude, honor, good character, principles, ethics, morals, righteousness, morality, virtue, decency, fairness, scrupulousness, sincerity, truthfulness, trustworthiness, unity, unification, coherence, cohesion, togetherness, solidarity).

Character – the mental and moral qualities distinctive to an individual . a person in a novel, play, or movie (synonyms: personality, nature, disposition, temperament, temper, mentality, makeup, persona, role, part, dramatis personae).

Responsibility – the state or fact of having a duty to deal with something or of having control over someone. the state or fact of being accountable or to blame for something (synonyms: authority, control, power, leadership, blame, fault, guilt, culpability, liability).

Accountability – the fact or condition of being accountable; responsibility (synonyms: responsibility, liability, answerability).

When To Use It: When you are evaluating your life circumstances, particularly at a crossroads, but also in more daily decisions where you want to “see who you are being before you physically be it”. When you are questioning yourself about a decision you made or an experience you had. When you want to redefine yourself and be who you want to be. When you have an Ahhha Moment and are present enough to grow from it.

Why Use It: To identify and find where your perspectives and beliefs are, regarding your involvement in an experience, to assist in figuring out how well you handled something you previously did, to determine if you want to do it differently this time. Choosing and defending those perspectives on a mental plane, before experiencing them on a physical plane, will often allow you time to reevaluate your decision. Once you do that, you can redefine your perspectives and beliefs and begin to live life differently! To decide if you want to be accountable to making the choice you are thinking of making or if you are going to shirk responsibility and accountability forgoing character and integrity for the sake of ego.

Words can be misinterpreted and misrepresented, but the effects of actions are objective and undeniable. Accepting responsibility for the actions you have taken and making amends, apologizing, and showing extra effort are necessary if you desire for the person to respect you again. Respect is a very sensitive quality. Without it, the disrespected person is unable to connect trust or feel worthy in the relationship. That is a lose-lose. A sincere apology with the reason why (VERY IMPORTANT TO STATE WHAT YOU ARE APOLOGIZING FOR), a commitment to do better in the future and actions that prove it, creates a catalyst to healing a relationship and an opportunity to heal that which you hurt. TFYT

How do you like to be acknowledged? How do you acknowledge other people? How do you like to be respected? How do respect other people? (RPT). If you give yourself a moment to think about what acknowledging and respecting mean to you, actually look up the words and notice how you feel them in your body, how you incorporate them into your beliefs and actions in life, what standards you hold other people to based on your own views of acknowledgement and respect, how they effect your Ego, and so on, you will gain insight into your own desires. Who are you being regarding how you need to be acknowledged and respected? It’s very personal and exciting work to find out what your desires are. CAVEAT: If you don’t know what the consequences are, they could be more costly than you would have chosen to pay. That is a price of excitement, but it could bankrupt you – that’s a pitfall. Also, there are no double standards – as this is good for you, it is also good for everyone else. TFYT

How To Use It: There are two examples sighted here.

The 1st example is regarding Personal Social Responsibility and is qued in by reading the following description of CSR – Corporate Social Responsibility – with the perspective that you are the person who is socially responsible for your impact on society, rather than the corporation.

According to Wikipedia:
Corporate Social Responsibility – CSR, also called corporate sustainability, sustainable business, corporate conscience, corporate citizenship or responsible business) is a type of international private business self-regulation. While once it was possible to describe CSR as an internal organizational policy or a corporate ethic strategy, that time has passed as various international laws have been developed and various organizations have used their authority to push it beyond individual or even industry-wide initiatives. While it has been considered a form of corporate self-regulation for some time, over the last decade or so it has moved considerably from voluntary decisions at the level of individual organizations, to mandatory schemes at regional, national and even transnational levels. 

Now read it as:
Personal Social Responsibility – PSR – also called personal sustainability, sustainable conduct, personal conscience, personal citizenship or responsible conduct)[1] is a type of internal private conduct self-regulation. Although voluntary by nature, conscience often times requires mandatory compliance.

Consider your conduct, taking responsibility for how it effects society and be accountable to the necessary actions.

The 2nd example is as follows: read it with an understanding that you are looking at your own integrity, character, responsibility and accountability.

This information is from Mission to Earth by Anna Merkaba

“What does it Mean to Love Yourself Unconditionally?”
When you appreciate the greatness of your own being and recognize that you have infinite potential and that you came here to express yourself in a unique way, and that you are actually doing it, that is loving yourself unconditionally!
When you deeply and profoundly accept yourself just the way you are, that is loving yourself unconditionally!
When you don’t wait anymore to be perfect in order to love yourself, that is loving yourself unconditionally!

However our real life stories don’t happen like that. Some of us come from dysfunctional families and environments that taught us that we are not good enough, we are defective, we don’t measure up to their expectations, or we felt rejected or abandoned as children.
Some children did not feel love or protected at all; some of them felt suppressed and diminished which robbed them of their true essence and they forgot who they really were meant to be on this planet. Once they became adults, they forgot their mission and the uniqueness of their message.
This information is from Mission to Earth by Anna Merkaba

Who are you going to be? What does integrity and character mean to you? How does it inspire and motivate you? Are you willing and courageous enough to take responsibility for your decisions and be accountable to the effects you have on society and your loved ones? Or not?

This is a big bite to take. It is not for the average bear. It is an advanced TFYT for sure. But know that if you do not walk in integrity with good character, when Karma comes around you will feel the weight of your decision with a mighty force.

Your Benefit: You will get to know yourself better. You create an opportunity to grow and change your behaviors to improve future outcomes.